Wherever you’re at with your emotions and your version of ‘truth’ of this, there is a simple way to know how you’re doing...

Do you feel compassion towards yourself? Not self-pity. Not defeat. Compassion.

• The compassion that comes from being kind to yourself.
• The compassion that comes from interrupting a tirade of abuse you’re piling on yourself, and realising you deserve better.
• The compassion that comes from seeking, with dogged persistence, the inner world within you that provides you with guidance, and wisdom, and certainty.
• The compassion that comes from pausing before you criticise.
• The compassion that comes from sharing a kind word when someone makes a mistake, instead of judging them.
• The compassion that comes from seeking to understand someone.
• The compassion that comes when you make someone feel welcome as they arrive at an event, even though you’re a little nervous yourself because you don’t know many people.
• The compassion that comes from learning from your mistakes, instead of condemning yourself.

The compassion that comes from my own sense of self-worth.

The compassion that is claimed through knowing I’m lovable.

The compassion that is noticed when I know I’m enough.